Living up to your gender
I was hanging out with my best friend when he received a phone call. After he answered it, he got up and went into the bathroom. First I was really confused, but then I heard him crying. His grandpa had just got into the hospital and the doctor called saying he only had a couple of days. I finally convinced him to come out and that there isn't anything wrong with showing your feelings, even when you’re a guy. I hate when you can't be who you are because of the gender you are. Our country has brought society up in a way that men are not supposed to do women things and vice versa. I have personal experience with this, because I was in a relationship where the guy was raised based on, "the man is in charge of everything". It was literally the only thing that broke up our relationship. He told me that I shouldn't be in the gym lifting weights; when I could be in the kitchen learning how to cook. This outlook we have on women and men make it very hard for the people of our society to be who they want to be. It also makes it hard for our society to excel in all aspects. A guy may be a better interior designer than a woman; where as a woman may be a better gun builder. It's ridiculous that my best friend couldn't get upset and cry to me about his grandpa because he feels that men are not supposed to cry. This outlook on women and men need to change and over the years, it has started to. I think that the only thing that will change this is just time and courage for women and men to prove who they really are.
I agree with your point but i don't think he didn't want to talk about it cause men "can't" cry. It more of the fact the guys don't like to feel weak so we keep things to ourside and keep them inside, as a way to make us stonger. Now i do think that a person (guy or girl)needs someone to talk to about these thing or else they'll go into a break down. All you can do is be there if he ever wants to talk but dont try and force him to cry
ReplyDeleteI agree with this blog 100%. I feel like its not that guy's can't cry, they just seem to hold their emotions in more than girls do because supposidly if a guy crys they are weak and feminine according to other guys. There is a double standard when it comes to emotions between guys and girls. I think that anyone and everyone should be able express there feelings in whatever way they would like.
ReplyDeleteSometimes peoples emotions get the best of them and most men, this isn't very often. However, no man will openly cry into your arms simply because it feels good. You as a woman would not want a man that cries more than you do. For this simple reason, men tend to bottle things like fear, sadness, and embarrasment and turn them into differnt ones, like happiness and courage.
ReplyDeleteI know why they do it, I just don't get why like a bazillion years ago they said that in society it wasn't okay for men to cry.
DeleteI hope you're writing this blog from the kitchen (;
ReplyDeleteJk. You're right. Gender roles have become rather outdated. However, I would agree with Ryan in that many guys just don't WANT to cry. It's just the way we deal with things. I'm not sure if that's a bad thing or not, I don't think it necessarily is.
Regardless it was very kind of you to talk to him and be there for him.
Everyone, guy or girl, thick skinned or thin, emotional or icy, all needs some one to leaaannnnn on.
I totally agree with you. No one should be held back from being themselves just because of our gender. I hope your friend is doing alright and that his grandfather is doing better.
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